Dad, You've Got Dementia

Author(s): Kristen Phillips

Contemporary Non-Fiction

Dad, You’ve Got Dementia shows people living with dementia and their whānau that it’s possible to stay connected with those they love.


When Kristen’s father, Don, was diagnosed with dementia the signs had been there for five years. He’d gone out less and less, given up driving and table tennis and relied increasingly on his wife, Penny. Conversations went in circles. Kristen started trying different ways to get her dad back – not the dad who could recall what was said or retain facts about his family, but the one who was patient, curious and funny. Who said, ‘I could talk with you for hours.’ She realised as he searched for words that weren’t there and reached for new ones, that the words he was finding and how he fitted them together felt like poetry. And Kristen, a poet, began writing it down.


Dad, You’ve Got Dementia is not about what is being lost on a daily basis but what there is still to find. It shows people living with dementia and their whānau that it’s possible to stay connected with those they love.


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‘Lyrical, honest, unfailingly loving: a portrait of the power of connection, even when there are no more words.’
—Charity Norman, author of Remember Me

Kristen Phillips grew up in Te Awa Kairangi Lower Hutt and recently returned to Aotearoa after thirty years living in London. While there, she came first- equal in the WriteNow poetry competition and founded a long- running poetry group. She lives in Te Whanganui-a-Tara Wellington with her partner, the writer Mia Farlane, and works for Dementia Wellington.

General Fields

  • : 9781988595696
  • : The Cuba Press
  • : The Cuba Press
  • : 01 March 2023
  • : books

Special Fields

  • : Kristen Phillips
  • : Paperback